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Miscarriage or Abortion:  What do the terms mean?

Due to the recent Supreme Court ruling, there has been an explosion of information and debate over the issue of abortion.  If you are scrolling Twitter or Instagram or listening to the news, you will see debates raging over what is legal now and what isn’t.  One misunderstanding is that women will not be able to get care in the hospital for a miscarriage because Roe has been overturned.  Why is this idea out there?  The confusion is partly because some people don’t know the difference between miscarriage and abortion, and because the treatment for an incomplete miscarriage is similar to what is done during a surgical abortion.

First, it is helpful to explain the difference between miscarriage and abortion.  A miscarriage (sometimes called a spontaneous abortion) is the natural loss of a developing baby before 20 weeks of pregnancy.  Many times, it is unclear why the loss of the baby occurs.  When a woman is miscarrying a pregnancy, she will have pelvic pain, cramps, and bleeding. Normally, her body will expel the contents of the uterus completely over a few days, but sometimes, this process does not complete on its own, and some tissue stays in her uterus.

If a woman still has some tissue from a failed pregnancy in her uterus, it can put her at risk for infection.  Doctors diagnose this condition and treat it with a surgical procedure called a D & C, or dilatation and curettage.  In this procedure, the cervix (the opening to the uterus) is opened enough to pass an instrument into the uterus to scrape the lining and remove anything remaining from the pregnancy.

So, how is an abortion different, and why is there so much confusion?  An abortion is the elective termination of a viable pregnancy, or in other words, it is ending a living pregnancy by choice.  In a miscarriage, the baby is no longer alive.  In an abortion, the baby is alive before the medication or the surgical procedure.  In a surgical abortion, a D&C is performed, similar to the procedure for an incomplete miscarriage.  The difference is that the procedure is used to end the life of a living baby.

The same confusion exists around stillborn babies.  A stillbirth is when a baby dies in the uterus after 20 weeks.  Claims have been made that hospitals in some states will refuse to treat stillbirths because this is also an abortion.  This is false.  Treatment of a stillbirth is not an abortion because the baby is no longer alive. 

Wrong information has also been floating around about treating ectopic pregnancies.  Ectopic pregnancies are pregnancies that are growing somewhere besides the uterus, frequently in the fallopian tube.  As they grow, they can cause tissue damage and internal bleeding for the mother.  These pregnancies can’t survive, and they pose a serious threat to the mother’s health.  They are treated with medication or surgery, usually.  Treatment for an ectopic pregnancy is not illegal anywhere in the United States because it is vital medical treatment, not an elective abortion. 

The meaning of words is important.  Miscarriage and choosing to abort a pregnancy are not the same thing.  Medical treatment of an incomplete miscarriage, a still birth, or an ectopic pregnancy is legal in every state in the U.S., including the ones that have outlawed elective abortion. 

It’s vital that women know the truth so that they don’t avoid seeking treatment for these conditions out of fear, and put their health at risk.


Two Lines Pregnancy Clinic (formerly Advice & Aid Pregnancy Center) offer peer counseling and accurate information about all pregnancy options. In keeping with our non-profit, pro-woman mission, while we do not offer or refer for abortion services, we do strive to provide medically accurate information.

If you wish to have a further discussion or get more information on the difference between abortion and miscarriage, feel free to talk to one of our many nurses here at our center. All appointments are completely without cost to you, and can easily be scheduled online.

Whether looking for information, experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, or need post-abortion care, we are here to serve you.

An Adoption Story: Rethinking the Possibilities

The writer of this story is willingly giving us permission to share her story so that others can realize there is hope in the midst of a difficult situation. All client experiences with Two Lines Pregnancy Clinic (formerly Advice & Aid Pregnancy Center) are kept with the highest confidence. The stories that are shared come from the real-life experiences that our clients, staff, and volunteers had during their unplanned pregnancy.

We are sharing this letter with the hope that this person’s personal experience with life would enlighten an expecting mother on her option of providing her child with life. It is adoption, a loving option.

In the Beginning . . . Pregnant and Unsure of Where to Turn

Many years ago, a 27-year-old single woman found herself pregnant with a married man’s child. After telling the father about her condition, the two of them decided that an abortion was the best option. He gave her the money for the procedure, and the appointment was made. But as she was driving to the abortion facility, she began to worry about her personal well-being throughout the procedure. As she sat in the parking lot, doubt and fear overcame her. It just felt wrong. She could not go inside. For the next several months, she agonized about what she would do next. After all, she was single and a student attending the Kansas City Art Institute. She dreamed of becoming an art teacher, and a baby just did not fit into that plan. She had heard of a place in her area that was a safe place that would help single pregnant women. Their program was supportive of the mothers whether they wanted to keep the baby or place the child for adoption. During the decision-making time, women there were able to learn skills and crafts, and this young woman learned to crochet. She made her unborn child a beautiful pink outfit. Soon, a baby girl was born.

A Brave Decision Finally Made

This young mother went to live with her sister for a time while she made her decision of whether or not to keep her baby. Months passed before she ultimately signed adoption papers. She requested that the adopting parents take home their new daughter in the pretty little outfit that she had made for her. They not only honored the mother’s wishes, but they saved the outfit for the baby girl to have and know, later in her life, that her birth mom loved her. The baby girl was four months old when she was adopted by a loving couple. Her adoptive parents gave her a new name, but when she was old enough to understand, they told her of the adoption. They explained that her birth mom could not take care of her, and loved her so much that she was given to them to love and care for. They loved their daughter as their own.

A Life of Meaning and Gratitude

As you may have guessed, I am the baby girl who was adopted. It shocks me to know how close I came to never having a chance at the life I have lived! I loved my adoptive parents, and they fully loved me. I have lived a wonderful life and became a Registered Nurse to care for people. I have had the opportunity to help hundreds of them. I am married, have raised three beautiful daughters of my own, and have three wonderful granddaughters. My life of loving and caring for others includes being a registered nurse, having gone on eight mission trips to Africa and Ecuador, and I served the first responders following the September 11, 2001 attack in New York City. I add these things not to boast, but to say that my life has meant something to others in a positive way. Now I hope my story will help other scared and confused moms to know that there are options that include support for them. I want them, too, to choose life.

Meeting My Brave Birth Mother in Love and Admiration

I have always been so grateful that my birth mother chose life for me. So much so, that my husband and I spent time searching for her. We finally found where she was living, and I wrote her a letter informing her of the good life I have enjoyed and thanked her for bravely choosing life for me. I am eternally thankful. With the letter, I sent a picture of the outfit that she had made prior to my birth, to prove my identity. I still have the pink knitted outfit to this day. Three months after receiving my letter, my birth mother called me, and we talked for hours. We subsequently enjoyed a relationship for a few years before she passed away from cancer.

For anyone who is pregnant, scared, confused, and feeling alone, please know that there are choices you can make for your daughter or son. You are NOT alone! There is help and support for you. This can turn out to be a very good thing for both you and your baby. I am living proof!

While Two Lines (formerly Advice & Aid) does not handle adoptions personally, we do partner with a number of licensed, fully trusted adoption agencies in our area. We can help you walk through the entire process with one of these recommended agencies so that you are not alone.

Start here – no judgment, no pressure at all. Just someone to talk to who has some truly helpful answers. Someone who wants whats best for you!